The major questions Singles have on their mind are:
1. How do i know i have found the right partner?
2. How do i know he or she loves me?
Well, these two questions are in so many people's minds, if you are one of them then this is the right post for you.
There are a lot of ways to know if he is Mr. Right or Mrs. Right and if they love you. In this post, i will be sharing with you my top 5 ways to know if they love you and if they are right for you.
1. THEY TRUST YOU WITHOUT SPYING ON YOU.
The truth is that trust is earned with time and trust can be broken in a few secs. So this is a vital key to a successful relationship.
If anyone you are dating keeps spying on you, if they have informants planted all over the city monitoring your movement then you are most likely with the wrong person.
True love needs a lot of trust. So if they trust you, if they know that you won't misbehave even when the pressure is much to do so then he/she is probably the right person.
If they allow you to hang out with the opposite sex that is your friend knowing you won't do anything stupid then add that to your checklist.
2. THEY WILL SUPPORT AND RESPECT YOUR DREAMS.
This is vital. Any man or woman who doesn't support you to pursue your dreams is someone you, by all means, need to avoid because is you get married to them its just a matter of time before you start feeling great frustration.
A man or woman that love you will be your number 1 fan, they will be there to support and sing your praise, in moments you feel like giving up they will be there to encourage you and lift you up.
If they go extra miles to set you up to achieve your dreams, sister, brother, hold them tight. They are rare. Add that to your checklist.
3. YOU CAN DISAGREE.
If your current partner agrees with everything you say or do, this is a big red flag. No human will always agree with you in all things. No. Its either they are pretending or lying just to prevent you from leaving.
There is a place of disagreement in every relationship. So if you can disagree without hurting each other with words, then they love you and could be the right partner.
You argue with each other but it's not about who wins or loses. It about the situation. If they leave the situation at hand and start attacking you during a disagreement or argument he or she is not right for you.
So a sign they are the right one for you is that both of you can disagree without hurting each other. So add that to your checklist.
4. YOU CAN BE YOURSELF AROUND THEM.
Let me ask, what's the point of being in a relationship where you can not be yourself?
You pretend morning, afternoon and night because if you show your true color they might leave you...
If they will leave because you can play too much then they should leave. It's better they leave now than leave tomorrow in marriage when you can no longer act that script of pretense. There is someone out there looking for exactly someone like you.
So, if you can't be your true self around them because they want you to act just in a particular way that pleases them then they are mostly the wrong person for you.
But if they love you for who you are, with all your craziness, stubbornness, annoyanceness, goodness, funness, laziness, seriousness, etc (add the rest of the "ness" you known) , then they are the right one for you. Add that to your checklist
(ND: if any of your ness is negative, try to get rid of it because it will help them love you more).
5. THEY HELP YOU GROW SPIRITUALLY.
So as you know, I stand with godly relationships. For many people in the world, this might not be a standard for them, but for you in the kingdom reading this, this should even be number 1 for you.
Trust me, any man or woman that is pulling you down spiritual is not the right partner for you and definitely not God's choice for you. If all they do is make you confess sins everyday, sister, brother, they are not the one for you.
The right partner will help nurture you to grow spiritually, they will initiate mediums to help you grow together. They will be your prayer partner instead of your prayer point for change always. So this should be number 1 on your checklist.
There are many other ways to know but these top 5 is a good place to start, if they are failing in any of the above 5, well you have a lot to figuring out to do.
One believe that the right partner should be good in these 5 top areas.
How else do you know he is Mr. Right or she is Mrs. Right. Leave your answer on the comments section.
