5 Tested And Proven Rules In Getting Right Partner

Many singles when it comes to knowing who to marry becomes confused . Many have been given superficial tips by some relationship bloggers, counselors or self-made relationship therapist. 

What I'm about to share with you would help you get it right if you could adopt these tested and proven rules.

Many I add this: marriage becomes successful when the right person marries the right person, and they apply the right principles for a successful marriage and they involve the right person. It just have to be right, otherwise, it'll be wrong. 

How can I know if this person is the right person? 

Only a right person can know who is right, and who is wrong under the right condition and influence. 

The following tips would help you to know who is the right person. 

1. Be the right person

It takes a thief to know a thief. 

If you're not the right person, it'll be difficult for you to know the right person. 

Are you the right person? 

What makes you the right person has to do with the rightness of your heart (spirit and soul) and your right understanding about marriage and life in general. 

You may pass all the basic maturity test (mental, physical, financial, social emotional or spiritual), but it doesn't mean you are the right person. 

A person may walk up to you for marriage but their heart isn't right with you because they have an hidden agenda or motive for coming into your life. This is why you can't fully know the right person through physical observation because the heart of men and women is evil, deep and desperately wicked, only God can know it. 

See, you are not the right person when your understanding about marriage is wrong. 

If you believe that women are done a favor by marrying them; that all men are polygamous in nature; that divorce is an option in marriage or cheating is one of the inevitables of life; then you have a wrong understanding of marriage. 

If you even marry angel Gabriel or virgin Mary, you will still end up with a bad marriage if you are not the right person. 

If the right person marries the wrong person or vis-a-vis, the marriage will fail or become an enduring one. 

Next is that you must... 

2. Be connected to the person who will make you know the right person

Sounds confusing? Read on! 

Man, with the best of all his acquired knowledge and understanding can't know the right person unless God opens his eyes to see the right person. 

Many are not connected to the right person (God) but wants to know the right person without Him. How possible it that? 

You need a personal and intimate relationship with God so He can reveal or guide you to the right person. 

Don't ever think you can know the right person without God because only Him knows the right person that will accept your past, present and future. 

Dear ladies, be so connected to God that it will take a man whose heart is right with God to find you as his help meet. 

Dear men, be a man after God's own heart that God will have to bring one of His daughters that He has made to you as a wife. 

Please, treasure your personal relationship with God more than church activities or being religious. 

Ask for the grace to love Him and fellowship with the Holy Spirit, as this would sharpen your spiritual senses to know the right person. 

More so...

3. Be at rest

Adam wasn't "dating" all the animals in search of the right person. God gave him a divine anesthesia and he fell into a deep sleep. 

Brother, go and rest. 

My sister, quit looking for Mr. Right. 

When you are at rest, you will be calm enough to recognize the right person when they come. But if you are jumping from Jane to Janet, or from John to Justus, you will be confused, anxious or frustrated in your human search for the right person. 

Rest puts you into a hibernate mode, while God is busy working out the right person for you. But if you are busy looking for Mr or Miss Right, God becomes at rest while He watches you doing it in your own way. 

Those who are at rest leaves everything in God's hands while He gives them His best. 

4. Compatibility

Having adopt items 1-3, you will know the right person through your agreement in so many ways. 

The right person will be compatible with you in your desire to fulfill your divine purpose. There will be mutual agreement in almost all critical issues of life, or you two can easily align your differences to reach an agreement. 

Compatibility has nothing to do with sex. Don't seek to practicalize it before marriage. You can talk things out if there are differences. 

There must be compatibility in goals, visions, divine purpose and in other important areas. 

5. Through divine revelation or spiritual discernment 

Last but very important, your ability to know the right person is tied to how functional your spiritual senses are. 

Adam could spiritually discern the woman as his bone of bones and flesh of flesh. The Bible didn't tell us that he dreamt or saw visions, there was a knowing in his heart that was deep enough and it was beyond her physical appearance, material possessions or personality impression - it is called discernment. 

More so, divine revelation comes through dreams, vision or trance. Only God determines whether the right person will be revealed to you through that means. 

Do not also forget that dreams could be manipulated by the devil or originates from your own thoughts. 

Dear readers, knowing the right person is not a rocket science, and it's not something you will know suddenly if you don't have a track record of an intimate relationship with God. 

Don't wait till you are ready for marriage before you draw closer to God. It takes time to know God and His ways. Start now, don't wait until you're "ripe" for marriage before you begin the journey. 

Remember, love is best expressed, and marriage is sweet when the right person marries each other and they apply the right principles, with their involvement of the right person (God).

10 Tips For Every Single Women (Preparing To Become A Wife)

Many women dream of that special day. You know the one, where all of the attention is on her in that gorgeous white dress. The flowers, the decorations, the fancy cars and let’s not forget, her Prince Charming. Most women have an idea of what age they will be when Mr. Right asks her to spend the rest of her life with him. She has the colors picked out, the ideal season, the wedding party and even the guest list! To many women, the wedding day is the turning point in her life that will lead to her happily ever after. Many of have focused (let’s be honest) so much time and thought on the wedding and the marriage such that they have never spent enough time and energy on the most important part”...preparing to become a wife! Marriage takes work! I am talking about 24/7/365 work! The great thing about the marital covenant is that when you give it your all, you can live “happily ever after”!

1. Develop an intimate relationship with God.

You cannot enter into a successful covenant with a husband if you don’t first have one with God. Seek biblical wisdom, study the word, develop a life of prayer and be dedicated to living for God. This will strengthen the marriage covenant when God allows you to walk into that season. A three-cord strand is not easily broken (Ecclesiastes 4:12)

2. Master the art of fidelity and trust.

No man wants a woman that cannot be faithful nor one that turns her neck at every fine man that she sees. Learn to 100% committed prior to a serious courtship. Be happy with what God has blessed you with and cultivate your relationship. It is also important to be a woman of your word. If you promise to do something, be sure to do it!

3. Develop the ability to take care of a home. 

Ladies, in order to be a great partner in marriage, you must bring the ability to emotionally and physically take care of the house. Learn to set a atmosphere of peace and love. Avoid quarrels when possible. Practice gentleness with others that cross your path.

4. Learn how to cook!

My mother once told me that a woman that cannot cook is not cute! We know that men like to eat. Let’s be serious here. We all need to eat to live. Eating out all of the time can become expensive and who doesn’t love a home-cooked meal from time to time. If you cannot do anything beyond boil water, invest in a cookbook. Try one new meal a week and you will quickly improve your cooking skills.

5. Make smart financial decisions.

If you desire to marry a man that provides and makes the best decisions for his family, you need to do the same. Smart men don’t want to marry a woman that spends way more than she saves. Work on your budget and be sure to have an emergency fund. Preparing for tomorrow is important. The ability to manage money is important in marriage.

6. Be complete as one.

Be comfortable with not having a man in this season. Learn to be happy on your own. Find joy in those things that make you happy. Love what you have and don’t covet what others have. Spend time in your singleness doing the things that you love to do. Travel, find hobbies and do the things that married women tell you that you won’t have time to do when you get married and then become a mother.

7. Learn the art of compromise.

Marriage will be about give and take. While you are single, learn that you don’t always have to be right and accept that most things will not always happen your way. Be willing to sacrifice what you want for the benefit and happiness of others. Wives have to compromise many things. The earlier we learn to compromise, the better off we will be in marriage.

8. Be committed to pursuing your dreams and supporting others.

 It is important to have your own goals and motivations prior to becoming one with your future husbands. The single season is a great opportunity to begin building your career, business or working towards other goals. Learn how to support family and friends in their endeavors as well. When you become a wife, you will have to support your husband’s dreams, possibly at the expense of yours. You must me ok with this level of sacrifice and compromise prior to committing to marriage.

9. Know what submission is and be ready to walk in it.

Many people shy way from this discussion. Submission is not equivalent to obedience. Submission is yielding in love. Study God’s design for marriage and understand the role of a wife. In your singleness, God is your husband. Submit yourself to Him. Trust His plan and timing for your life. Seek His guidance in all that you do. Practicing submission now will be the driving force to it being second nature to you once you become a wife.

10. Be holy and feminine in your conduct.

Always carry yourself as a classy woman who walks with confidence. Men want a woman they are proud to take home to their families. They want a woman with high self-esteem, one who walks gracefully, respects herself and others around her. Marriage is a sacred bond between God, man and woman.

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2 Decisions To Keep Smooth/Flourishing Relationship

Let me share with you two (2) decisions that has helped me have good and flourishing relationship with people I have met, including my wife, children and family members.

These two decisions will also help you to keep a smooth relationship whether single or married.

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One, I always try my best to do things with good consideration for others. I don't just talk, I will first think about how what I want to say will affect the person I want to talk to.

I don't just act, I will first think about how what I want to do will affect the person I'm dealing with.

So, I talk and act with consideration for the other person. I think about how to affect people positively. I won't shout on you because I would have thought that shouting on you won't be good for you.

When you think about how your words or actions affect your partner, your spouse, your neighbors and family members, and you are careful about it, you will have good relationships with them.

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Before you say a word, taste it to be sure it is sweet because nobody enjoys bitter words. That's how to act reasonably.

In case I have to correct you, I make sure I am extremely nice to you first and that you have become comfortable with me before I will calmly correct you.

Correction done with lots of love and kindness rarely gets anyone annoyed. 

That is one.

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Two, I am quick to apologize when I talk or act in error.

That's it!

We are humans; sometimes we misbehave, intimidate others, get unnecessarily angry or even fight.

It is not normal but it does happen.

When it does happen, what do you do? If you start claiming rightness in your mistakes, you will end up losing precious relationships.

What I do anytime I misbehave is to quickly swallow my pride and ego, humble myself and apologize; it does not matter who I offend, whether a 5 year old or 80 year old - as long as I have done you something wrong, I will apologize.

I have made up my mind to always do these!

What's the result?

The result is that my relationships with people are preserved! I lose nothing.

Yes, these two decisions are what God has been using to help us keep our home; I always think about how my words or actions will affect my wife before I say or do it. If I mistakenly step on her toes, I am very quick to bow my head in genuine apology. 

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Think about others. Don't hurt them. In case you do hurt them, be quick to apologize genuinely; I can assure you that you will have flourishing relationships. 

I hope you find this helpful?

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